What Not To Do On A First Date

Going on a first date can be a scary thought, even for the more experienced dater. There are hundreds of thoughts going through your head all at the same time; what should I wear, are they going to like me, what if we don’t have anything in common, etc. The best tactic is to just be yourself. Don’t change anything about yourself for that one night. If you’re going to enter a long-term relationship it will be hard to keep up the fake accent or the different clothing style and you won’t feel yourself. Start out by going as you are and how you would like to continue.

• Don’t pin your hopes and dreams on this date

This might be the most promising date you’ve had in a long time but don’t plan your future just yet. That’s a massive amount of pressure that you don’t need at this point. Treat the night as it is – a fun and exciting meeting between two people who are looking for friendship. Take the opportunity to get to know each other. If you’re not compatible, don’t dwell on it, move on to the next date.

• Don’t talk about previous relationships

The last thing your date wants to hear is you droning on about your previously failed relationships. If there were a set of rules for going on first dates, this would be high on the list. Use this opportunity to put your ex out of your mind and get to know the person sitting in front of you.

• Don’t opt for the double spirits too early

Going on a first date can be one of the most nervous situations there is. Having one or two drinks during your meal and afterwards is perfectly fine but don’t overdo it. No-one wants to be carrying home a date at the end of the night. Remember you don’t know this person and you should keep your wits about you. Enjoy yourself but be aware of your surroundings.

• Don’t sit on your phone

I’m sure your friends will be eager to know how the date is going but you can tell them all about it afterwards. Keep your phone in your bag or pocket and not on the table – turning your phone over is just as bad. It doesn’t give off a good impression if you value your phone more than getting to know your date, even if it is true. Instagram and Facebook will find out soon enough.

• Don’t dress for a night at the proms

If you’re going to be yourself then you need to be comfortable. Having to pull up a dress every two minutes will be an unwanted annoyance for you and your date. Dress for the occasion and don’t overdo it – keep your little black dress and high stilettos for another time. And guys, your Oasis t-shirt from 1996 will not be considered appropriate attire for most first dates.

• So what should I do?

To have a successful first date you should go with an open mind. Give it a chance and see where it takes you. Within three minutes you might have already made up your mind, whether it be good or bad, but see the night out and have good time. They might not be your next lover, but you never know what connections they might bring in the future. Good luck.